For people with anxiety, losing control can be something absolutely terrifying. I can liken it to standing on the edge of a cliff, waiting for the one last thing that will shove you over the edge. Personally, I want to have at least a little bit of control in all my decisions or I completely panic. It does get easier to manage a lack of controlling your environment or your circumstances as you age. It’s never going to be something completely easy to handle though. Thankfully, there are some things we can do to manage the anxiety that comes when we lose control.
First thing to do is to take several deep breaths. We need to remember that it’s not as dire as we immediately assume it is. Take some breaths and let your body and mind relax.
Your brain is already spinning out of control and panicking. Take a step back and think about this as logically as you can. You may need to sit down and journal to do this. You’ll work your way out of the panic and into a calmer mind. This calmer mind is what will allow you to adjust your plans and thinking. You should also remember that an outcome will happen. It might be good, it might be bad, or it might be neither. Either way, the anxiety you’re dealing with will end and a solution will be found.
Talk it out
Spend some time talking to someone you trust. Venting is a healthy coping mechanism as long as it doesn’t become a negative, victim mindset. Talk to a third-party. Venting will help you settle down, and you get access to a new or different perspective.
Remain in control of yourself
While it may not seem like you have any control over yourself when you’re panicking, I assure you that you do.
Here’s the thing. We cannot always control what happens to us, but we can control how we react to it. Sometimes life will slap you in the face and throw you off the cliff. What do you do then? You breathe, assess the situation, and you make a new plan.
Avoid taking it out on others
I’ve met people that take it out on others when they lose control. They get mean, aggressive, and sometimes cruel. Don’t do that. It’s damaging to your mindset, their mindset, your relationships and reputation, and it’s something that you can’t take back.
Sometimes we lose control. It sucks, it’s scary, and no one really enjoys it. We can’t always be in control, but we can control ourselves and our reactions. How do you deal with a loss of control? Let us know in the comments down below.